tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-291069787086607412.post6917146588537137088..comments2018-12-02T04:28:14.910-08:00Comments on Antony Fairport: Not your submissiveAntony Fairporthttp://www.blogger.com/profile/03167109071277093747noreply@blogger.comBlogger1125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-291069787086607412.post-39338919880004564422013-09-21T03:06:07.310-07:002013-09-21T03:06:07.310-07:00It is perfectly fine to say "no". As far...It <i>is</i> perfectly fine to say "no". As far as I understand, you decide who's the person that deserves to be trusted, and nobody can force that decision on you.<br /><br />Having your nature questioned is more than annoying. To me, is an alarm sign. "If you really were...", "If you really loved me..." are expressions often used by manipulators and abusers, to make their target/victim doubt about themselves, feel bad and thus concede their demands. It doesn't mean, the person using that kind of expression is automatically an abuser... but it makes me immediately close and be on guard.<br /><br />The key to me is SSC. When someone tries to force a decision on me, by questioning anything about me in that "let's make you doubt about yourself" fashion, the "C" in SSC is lost. And I'm afraid, if I cannot trust, there's no much business left to do.<br /><br />You've taken a choice in your life, and so far that choice isn't to be a doormat. Those "dominants" likely don't even know what they're talking about. The one demanding you making the script... The nerve (You're not alone in that, I still have that happening... and my profile has no references at all to any kind of submissiveness.)<br /><br />I guess that some think you call yourself "master of the universe" and that's it, everybody has to kneel at you. Well, good luck with that :-)Auryn Beornhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/02832014326094809370noreply@blogger.com